This was an idea I got from fellow entrepreneur, Shane Sams.
This is going to be a new series where I share some of my failures throughout the week.
These fails will be around business, life, parenting, money, etc.
I ain’t perfect, and never claimed to be.
Unlike the yahoos on Tik Tok or Instagram who boast about their perfect life.
That ain’t my life.
Why am I doing this?
Last summer, I interviewed 50 Dads about starting an online business/side hustle.
One of the biggest roadblocks for these Dads was the fear of failure.
In business, and life, you’re going to fail.
I guarantee you that.
And that’s ok.
It shows that you’re actually attempting something.
However, I look at failure as lessons learned — NEVER failure.
My goal with this series is to show you that it’s ok to fail.
I fail on a daily basis.
It’s part of life/business.
Fail #1 – Not Being Present
Yesterday, I sent out an email about how I took Ashton (my 5 year old) to the park while Ava (7) attends summer school.
The first park we went to had 2 or 3 people there.
It was mid 90s by the time we got there (around 11), so I knew the heat would keep most inside.
Ashton asked if we could go to another park, so we hopped in the car and drove to the park down the street.
One of my favorite things about living in Vegas in this city has hundreds of parks. Some really well kept ones, too.
We got to the next park and WE WERE THE ONLY ONES THERE!
I brought my notebook, so I could journal at the picnic table (a daily task of mine)
I had my phone, so I could read 20 minutes (another daily task).
I figured I could get some work done while he played.
However, Ashton had no one to play with.
I set my things down on the table and we pushed each other on the swings.
Him pushing me:
I then taught him how to swing on his own.
We played on the jungle gym.
He wanted to go to Wendy’s for lunch, so that’s what we did (I may have ate more of his Frosty than he did)
One of the things I am trying to get better at is being present in the moment.
Putting work down.
Playing with the kids.
Listening to them.
It’s why I got into entrepreneurship — to spend more time with them.
Being present is something I continue to struggle with.
Fail #2 – Think Bigger
I’m launching a membership for Dadpreneurs (and aspiring ones) on Tuesday, June 8th.
My 40th birthday is August 8th — exactly two months away.
I was texting with my buddy Conrad about setting a goal of 100 memberships by my birthday.
I told him that feels like a small goal.
He texted me back, “Why not aim for 1,000”?
When I read that my initial thought was — That is Grant Cardone level thinking! (10x).
It instantly forced my brain to find ways on how to achieve just a feat.
The rest of the afternoon ideas were just flowing how to achieve that.
I need to think bigger.
Small thinking has been something I’ve struggled with for years.
Fail #3 – Resentment
My mom and I have a weird relationship.
I love and appreciate everything she’s done for the kids & I.
However, she’s never been too encouraging.
Always had a pessimistic attitude about life.
Unfortunately, I inherited the pessimism.
I think it’s why I spend so much time working on my mindset as I’m trying to reverse years & years of damage.
I have years of resentment built up around her.
Which is just plain stupid.
I am reminded by this great quote;
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
I’m trying so hard to let it go.
Like the Notorious B.I.G rapped, “it’s an everyday struggle”
It doesn’t serve her nor I.
It’s such a wasted emotion.
That’s all I got.
These are my 3 fails of the week.
Although the last one is one I’ve been struggling with for quite some time.
Each Friday I’ll send out my Friday Fails where I reveal 2-3 fails that happend that week and/or are currenting bothering me.